Why is burning bridges good for me?

Burning bridges is part of my personality and therefore a constant feature of my life.


If people are being toxic to me, I don't want to associate with these people. So why maintain relationships with them? There’re 7.9 billion people on earth as of June 2021 according to Google. Surely I can find people who will be a better match. Same goes for jobs and places to live.


Here are my pearls of wisdom on how to burn bridges and not feel regrets:


I don’t act on impulse


Acting on impulse brings people closer to rabbits. It also increases the risk of having regrets afterwards. We can do better. We have rational minds. We have intuition after all.


I don’t make assumptions


Biases, tunnel vision, arrogance and know-it-all attitude can play a nasty joke. I always assume that I don't know who I'm dealing with. One of my favourite career mentors (with police background) said it never ceased to surprise him how unpredictable people could be and potentially capable of awful things.


I take calculated risks


This includes thinking about possible consequences. Putting myself in my future self shoes and thinking - will I be able to cope with the consequences?


I always have several options


I have a plan. In fact, I always have several plans. Thinking about future options helps focus on the positive and put things in perspective.


I know myself ... kind of


Take the time to understand your motivation, mindset, emotions and reactions. You need to be able to monitor and adjust what you think and how you react to situations.


If you get attached to people and places, if you’re very sensitive, if you like staying in your comfort zone, if you're capable of feeling sympathy for people who hurt you, if you’re overall kind and gentle person and so on…. well, burning bridges isn’t for you. And there’s nothing wrong with it.

Last but not least - I never walk around telling people that I'm about to burn a bridge. This would be silly, wouldn't it, especially if I decide to change my mind. After all, the surprise element is always a bonus.


Any regrets? I’m steadily approaching my 50 y.o. anniversary and looking back - I’ve never ever regretted it. Not a single time. Why? Leaving aside the fact that many years ago I decided not to experience regrets - and never did since then - leaving this aside, I think there’re other factors, too.